8. Mark Salzman, The Man in the Empty Boat (2012) (4/30/25)
Another nice short book (151 pages), by an author I've long admired. Also memoir, like the one I reported on the other day, and like Salzman's own best-seller Iron and Silk, about teaching English and studying martial arts in China as a young man, and Lost in Place: Growing Up Absurd in Suburbia, both of which I've read. I'm pretty sure. It's been a while, though. I did remember Salzman as being self-deprecatingly funny, a way of coping with his anxieties—and this book, the last one he's published, thirteen years ago now, is in the same vein, but with a strong current of seriousness as well.The title comes from a Taoist parable (which you can also see a video version of here). As Salzman retells it:
If a man in a boat is crossing a river and an empty boat drifts along and bumps into his, he won't get angry. But if there is someone in the other boat, then the man will shout out directions to move. If his directions go unheeded, he will shout again, and then a third time, followed by a stream of curse words.
If a man could make himself empty, and pass like that through the world, then who could harm him?
Salzman begins with a few chapters describing his childhood, all framed by the fact that he grew up in a family of "twitching rabbits," beset by fears and regrets and unfulfilled yearnings. He then writes about getting married, to film director, editor, writer etc. Jessica Yu, and, ten years on, starting a family as two daughters, Ava and Esme, enter the picture. That's all background to what is arguably the meat of the book: his struggles with writing; a period of full-blown panic attacks; the death of his sister—unexpected, tragic; and the acquisition (very much against his wishes) of a dog, Bowie. As the back cover puts it, the book is an "account of a skeptic's spiritual quest," and that sums it up pretty well.
Toward the end of the book, Salzman encounters the 1979 film Koyaanisqatsi, wordless, plotless, given emotional shape with a score by the minimalist Philip Glass. In fact, he encounters it twice, in very different circumstances, first at the Hollywood Bowl with Jessica, a live performance of the score by Glass himself, and then, just a few weeks later, on a DVD in a cabin in a remote valley in Idaho, alone with Bowie. On the first occasion, at the climax of the film, depicting a rocket powering its way skyward, "a perfect, flaming spear" that is then "overwhelmed by its own power," its fury catching up with and it and consuming it before it explodes, he—finally—bursts into tears with all the pent-up emotion of the past month at the hospital bedside of his sister, helping take care of her two daughters, being there for his brother, his father, his brother-in-law. It is then that Jessica suggests he take a break, go stay in the Idaho guest house of a friend.
He embraces the idea with relief. And "believe it or not—I offered to take the dog with me."
It was my idea, not Jessica's or anybody else's, proving once and for all that I'm a moron. I thought that maybe, if I wasn't having to be a stay-at-home parent and grieving brother and panicked writer all at the same time, I might bond with the dog the way curmudgeons always do in heartwarming movies and bestselling books. I wanted that to happen. I didn't enjoy feeling the way I felt; I didn't want my kids to think that their daddy didn't love their new best friend. I was determined to turn things around. If I bring her to Idaho, I told myself, she'll lie at my feet and keep me company while I read and eat and nap and jot things down in my notebook. We'll take walks together every day. By the time we return to Los Angeles, we'll be inseparable.
When I take charge of things, they never unfold according to my wishes.
And yes, the dog (and her farting, which was presaged on page 2) does figure into the unfolding spiritual awakening. As does Koyaanisqatsi and that rocket, on re-viewing. I was going to quote the epiphany, but I'll just say it involves realizations of illusion, the matrix of physical laws, impersonality and spontaneity, human consciousness and the cosmos, and the conclusion that "we do what we must as we fall through time, which means—this is the feel-good part again—that we are doing the best we can, always."
I wonder what Salzman has been up to these last thirteen years. Maybe he's just now polishing the novel he was stuck on way back then, set in Lin'an, the capital of Song dynasty China, on the eve of the Mongol invasion in 1276. I'll certainly read it if so.
There's a really good profile of Salzman (who is also a cellist and friend of Yo-Yo-Ma's) by Lawrence Weschler in the New Yorker here, from 2000, shortly after the release of his novel about a nun who experiences visions. It's worth reading. And here's an interview with him from 2003. He's funny and wise. I think it'd be rewarding to know him in person.